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男男女女

《語文影》

 

男男女女

 

       吉普林(Rudyard Kipling)說過:「東是東,西是西,東西始終不相通。」(Oh, East is East, and West is West, and never the twain shall meet….)這裡的「通」,是溝通、了解、相容之義。東、西如此,男、女亦然。

       人類學上有所謂女權時代,其時行母系氏族制,由女人當族長家長。但曾幾何時,男尊女卑的制度崛起,女人長受歧視、壓制。這從下面有關女人的引語可見一斑。

       重男輕女乃東西方普遍現象。中文「女」部的字含貶意的頗多,如奴、妒、嬾、奸、姦、妖、委、姤等。舊社會常把女兒看成賠本貨(粵諺稱「蝕本貨」)。英古諺曰: “A man of straw is worth a woman of gold”。說最上等女人也比不上草包漢子,荒唐實甚。打女人的風俗也屢見不鮮: “A woman, a spaniel, and a walnut-tree, the more you beat them the better they be.”  把女人比作長毛狗(spaniel另一解是馬屁精)和胡桃樹,「越打得狠越好」。

       「女子無才便是德」,據說是孔子的夫人說的,待考。英諺亦曰, “A wise woman is twice a fool”。尼采更缺德: “When a woman becomes a scholar there is usually something wrong with her sexual organs.” (「女學者準是性器官有問題」)。難怪《傲慢與偏見》的作者Jane Austin慨嘆道:“A woman, especially if she have the misfortune of knowing anything, should conceal it as well as she can.”(女子有識殊非幸事,宜深藏之。)

       “Frailty, thy name is woman”(弱者,你的名字是女人。),莎士比亞如是說。懂得上善若水的人究竟不多。

       男人討厭女人長舌。粵諺「三個女人一個墟」,英諺 “Three women and a goose make a market”,只多了一頭鵝。 “Where there are women and geese, there wants no noise” “wants” 作欠缺解。 “A woman’s tongue is the last thing about her that dies.”即粵人所謂「死剩把口。」

       古羅馬詩人維吉爾(Virgil)嘗言女人善變(Varium et mutabile semper Femina)。英諺亦曰女人如風雨針(A woman is a weather-cock)。「女大十八變」,是指少女之變。西諺說法較全面:“A woman is an angel at 10, a saint at 15, a devil at 40, and a witch at fourscore.” (女子十歲為天使,十五歲為聖女,四十歲為魔鬼,八十歲為巫婆。)

       王德爾說女人終會變得像自己的母親,可悲可嘆(All women become like their mothers.  That is their tragedy.)。

羅馬詩人玉外納(Juvenal)言女人有仇必報: “ No one delights more in vengeance than a woman”。筆者看過一則古人筆記,出處已忘,說某婦人爭寵,咀咒情敵投胎作鼠,己當為貓,「生生世世扼其喉!」

       叔本華對女人無好感:  “The fundamental fault of the female character is that it has no sense of justice”,說女人不知正義為何物,可謂一竹篙打盡一船人。

       毛姆 (Somerset Maugham) 挖苦女人,借婦科教授之口說: “…woman is an animal that micturates once a day, defecates once a week, menstruates once a month, parturates once a year and copulates whenever she has the opportunity.”(女人之為物,一天一小解,一周一大解,一月一紅潮,一年一分娩,隨時幹事不嫌頻。)

       男人覺得女人麻煩,「唯女子與小人難養也」,不能不管束。“Women are ships and must be manned”,把女人比作船,船須有掌船人,掌船人得是男人; “manned”字於此有多重意義。男人要女人安份,不得拋頭露面。 “A woman’s place is in the home”

       男人歧視女人,但又不能沒有女人,把女人看作 「必要之惡」: “Women are necessary evils”

“Every Jack has his Jill”,蒙田曰 “for each foot each own shoe”;粵諺則是「冬前臘鴨」。

       男女對愛情態度不同。拜侖說:女人初戀時愛的是情人,其後所愛的只是愛情。(In her first passion woman loves her lover, in all the others all she loves is love.)柯立基說:男人想得到的是女人,女人想得到的卻只是男人的愛慕。(The man’s desire is for the woman; but the woman’s desire is rarely other than for the desire of the man.

       男人常把女人視為禍水。夏商周覆亡,都算到妹喜、妲己、褒姒身上去。希臘神話中的第一個女人潘多拉(Pandora)是人類痛苦之由;《聖經》裡的夏娃害得阿當被逐出伊甸園,萬劫不復。尼采說: “Woman was God’s second mistake.” 上帝創造世界後又造女人,一錯再錯。

       物極必反。大男人主義(male chauvinism)過了頭,難怪姊妹們群起婦解。當今之世,女強人多如牛毛。有女作家認為女人主愛,屬愛神(Venus)範疇,男人好鬥,受戰神(Mars)擺佈。言下之意,臭男人不是好東西。政正主義(political correctness)崛起以後,男人對女人更要加倍警覺,舉凡言語、態度、行動均須小心翼翼,免干法紀。兩性相處已成為一門高深而複雜的學問。平心而論,女權高張原是男人自作之孽,偏有窩囊男人群起抗議。

男女爭鋒有其生物基礎,從性事可見一斑。即使是「禮義之邦」的子民,仍不免視床笫為戰場,「好鬥」的外族人更不必說了。俗語中常把男女性器官喻作武器。漢語稱男人那話兒曰金鎗、曰金剛棒、曰虎眼鞭、曰雞心槌、曰沒縫靴,英語則直稱為weapon,又喻之為刀槍劍戟(swordpistolgunlancedartchopperhornpokerhammer),全是侵略性的東西。女人性器曰蛙口、曰玉戶、曰玉門、曰天門、曰劍(「腰間仗劍斬愚夫」)、曰套索、曰鴛鴦扣(「紅綿套索鴛鴦扣」),英語則稱snatchbitevicesnapperclamoystercoffee grinder,皆足與男人物事分庭抗禮。性交則喻曰上陣、曰交鋒、曰床上功夫。「西門慶兩戰林太太」、「鏖戰這婆娘」、「曾與佳人鬥幾場」,是男人對女人下戰書;「奪精吸髓」,把「鐵金剛」降服為「繞指柔」,則是女人收拾男人的本事。

Make love, not war,做愛應是乾坤相濟之事,竟不免磨刀霍霍,殺氣騰騰。可見男女之爭無時或已:The battle between the sexes is never done.

 

 

June 4, 2008 - Posted by | Word-watching 語文影

1 Comment »

  1. 很有趣,請多撰文啊!支持!

    Comment by KC | June 3, 2010 | Reply


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